Pomona and Vertumnus

Reading this love story, I started to think about love and how there are so many kinds of love and so many emotions you must go through in love. For example, Pomona seemed to be completely unaware of Vertumnus's obvious infatuation for her. He would do anything to try and catch her attention and he would even change his real self in order to become someone that he thought would impress Pomona. So at first, you think of Vertumnus as a lovesick fool whose love for Pomona is sadly unrequited. Pomona, so unperturbed and oblivious, it was as if she simply did not care for Vertumnus's attempts. But how could she not? He was obviously parading himself in front of her. Was she blind or something? No, the story is just trying to tell us that in order that you can find your one and true love, you have to be yourself. Even if you think yourself is not good enough or attractive for the one you are trying to impress, then that means it was not meant to be. Or that's the message I thought it was trying to send.
But, still, I think Vertumnus was making a sacrifice and was showing his devotion to Pomona by demonstrating that he would become anybody if that meant he could be with her. So maybe you can become someone else for the person you love just because you love them. But that would mean a complete loss of identity, independence, and self-respect for yourself. But as I mentioned before, when in love, Vertumnus was a fool. So he foolishly thought he would impress a girl as far within reach as Pomona by trying to be anyone else except himself, experimenting which one would be the one she preferred. Which was wrong of him, he only had to be Vertumnus, the lovesick fool, minus the costumes.

From some the images I looked at of Cupid and Psyche, in comparison to Pomona and Vertumnus, the roles seemed to be reversed. Cupid seemed to be the one leaving Psyche hanging.
Instead of the woman being the one chased after, Psyche seemed to chase for Cupid.
But in others, Cupid seems to adore Psyche just as much as Vertumnus adored Pomona.

For example, in this one above, Cupid is gazing adoringly at Psyche, and Psyche is completely oblivious to this, apparently sleeping, as Pomona was when Vertumnus tried to impress her with his disguises.

I did a little more research on the story behind the images of Cupid and Psyche and found out my interpretations were absolutely wrong. Turns out, Cupid is only gazing at Psyche before he uses his golden arrows on her as a favor to his mother, who was jealous of Psyche's beauty. Cupid finds Psyche too beautiful, falling in love with her and decides not to use his arrows. Venus, Cupid's mother, punished Psyche by placing a curse upon her that would keep her from ever finding a suitable husband. I think this myth is absolutely different to Pomona and Vertumnus, and the only similarity I can find is that they're both kind of love stories.